Love Being You in 2015! Build Self Esteem
Build Your Child’s Self Esteem in 2015 with Lovable You. A New Year! A New You!
To build your child’s sense of self-esteem, you say it repeatedly to your child, “Honey, you are very special!” After a long day in the classroom, in the lunch room, on the playground, or participating in extra-curricular activities, does your child come home believing this?
I am a very sensitive person, have been all my life. Facing criticism and rejection was extremely difficult for me because of this. My parents, teachers, and friends would usually say, “Oh, don’t take it personally.” But I could never see it that way. As I grew older, I learned to separate out hurtful words from personal feelings better, but still…
My daughter is the same way. She chose the rigorous extra-curricular activity of ballet. Early on her natural ability and build for this art surfaced. As the years progressed, this became a liability instead of an asset. In the world of professional ballet, you start young and have to earn your tutu so to speak. You are a member of the corps for many years until you have earned center stage with only three or four or the ultimate pas de deux. The next step up to soloist on your way to prima ballerina. Wow, how exciting. But, oh the rejection and criticism and heartache along the way. It seemed, the better you were, the harsher the words from dance instructors and directors. The demands were set much higher. They saw it as a way to motivate, challenge, and build the competitor in the dancer. After all, this is how they ascended the ranks themselves! It’s true, professional ballet is steeped in competition but for someone as sensitive in nature as my daughter, she lost her heart instead of motivating her desire and passion.
Like my daughter, these types of sensitive souls, are accomplished in many other ways. This is to be explored, nurtured and celebrated. The years in dance allowed my daughter to develop many life skills and for this she is super glad she had the experience. Away from the heat of the moment, as she grows older, she realizes that she was indeed special as a ballerina also.
Life is full of bumps and bullies in your child’s journey of self-discovery. As parents, it is one of the most heartbreaking things to deal with. Buckaroo Buckeye would like to offer this adorable video from YouTube as inspiration for you and your child as the New Year brings new beginnings and new challenges. May your child have a successful 2015.